Winning

Some games are set up for winning and losing. The rules give us a framework to do our best to achieve a very specific goal. These are healthy and fun, mainly because they end. Confoundingly though, we sometimes try to apply the same construct to other parts of life, creating a ratchet of competition and comparison towards a mythical top. This can lead to judgement, burn out and unhappiness. Of course, there’s no real winning and losing in life. We should be content then with merely having the chance to play. It’s not poker, it’s an experience.

When is winning important? What aspects of our work and life do we need to reframe as an infinite game instead?